signature Q&A: Brandilyne Magnum-Dear

By BRANDILYNE MAGNUM-DEAR,

BRANDIILYNE MANGUM-DEAR (Bb), is the pastor and founder of Joshua Generation Community Church, a radically inclusive and all affirming church in Hattiesburg. She and her wife, Susan Mangum, also own The Red Jasper, a metaphysical crystal shop. Bb and Susan believe that everyone should have a place to express their spirituality without fear or shame. Whether it be in a church or a metaphysical shop, everyone's spiritual walk is valid and important.

What is your idea of happiness?

Loving what I do and doing what I love.

What is your greatest fear?

Disappointing my granddaughter, Stella, who is by far my greatest accomplishment.

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?

I often speak (passionately) before I think (reasonably) and my words seem harsh and my message becomes ineffective.

What is the trait you most deplore in others?

I try to see myself in others. If I see something that I find 'deplorable' it's only because I recognize it. I then reflect on myself and quietly thank them for being a mirror to my own soul.

What do you hate the most?

I hate that we, as the human race, have become so divided. I hate the hate that has become tangible in our communities, our country and our world.

Which talent would you most like to have?

Is wiggling your nose, like Samantha on Bewitched, considered talent?

What is your favorite quality in a woman?

Everything my wife is: authentic, strong, supportive and loving.

What is your favorite quality in a man? 

I think authenticity is my favorite quality in anyone...

What is your most-prized possession?

My family.

What is your idea of misery?

Living a life without purpose or vision.

What do you most value in your friends?

I have the greatest friends! They are considerate, caring, and they are always THERE. And, of course, crazy fun.

Who is your favorite fictional hero? 

Wonder Woman (duh).

Who are your heroes in real life?

Martin Luther King Jr., Harvey Milk, Rosa Parks, Troy Perry, Susan B. Anthony, Freda Smith. This list goes on and on. My heroes are those that have and continue to fight for civil rights and equality.

What was the happiest day of your life?

The day that my granddaughter was born.

What was the worst day of your life?

I'm not sure that I have had 'the worst day of my life.' Most of the 'worst days' turned into pivotal moments that inspired me. My greatest accomplishment came from my deepest wounds. Although these times were extremely difficult, they, in essence, became a poignant muse for me.

What is one thing that most people don’t know about you?

I'm a pretty open book so there's not much that people don't know.

What is your greatest regret?

The times that I acted selfishly and caused harm to others.

Who are your favorite authors?

Brene' Brown, William Young, Wayne Dyer

How would you like to die?

I'm hoping to skip this part somehow, but if I must, I suppose I would like to go in my sleep.

If you could have dinner with anyone - dead or alive - who would it be?

You're kidding, right? Maybe the Dalai Lama, or Buddha, maybe Jesus or Moses... Lao Tzu or Plato... my grandmother. Yeah, I obviously can't answer this question.

What words would people use to describe you?

That depends on who you ask. Some would say inspirational and passionate while others would say I'm a crazy heretic.

Besides the Pine Belt, where is your favorite place to be?

Anywhere with my wife and friends!

What would you eat for your last meal? 

Chicken wings from Izote... TRUST ME!!

What is your present state of mind?

I have a wonderful life so I am incredibly happy.

What is your motto?

You can do anything you set your mind to. When others cast stones, open a crystal shop.